Should You Write Your Own Wedding Vows?
For many people saying your wedding vows to the one you plan to spend the rest of your life with is the most sacred part of your wedding day. These are the few moments where you look into your loved ones eyes, in front of his family and yours, and you really open up your heart to him. Many couples choose to go with the standard and the traditional, saying the words that have been said for centuries, after all who wants to say something stupid or shallow during one of the most intimate and exposing moments of your life. If you are bold or romantic and you wish to speak truly from the heart you may opt for writing your own vows, if you do here are several tips to help keep it classic and beautiful.
1-Make promises, it sounds better to preface a statement with “I promise” as opposed to “I will”.
2-Keep it relevant, make notes about your relationship. Talk about when you first fell in love, why you decided to get married, or where you first met.
3-Agree on a format and a style, decide if you want it to be funny and romantic or poetic and serious.
4- Decide if you are going to write them together or separately, and will you be saying the same things or making completely different promises.
5-Stay away from lengthy and over involved vows. Don’t tell too many inside jokes or anything that will embarrass you or your loved one. Keep things short and sweet, remember your not there to tell a story, you’re there to make a promise in front of those closest to you.
6-Practice, practice, practice, unless you are planning on keeping them a secret practice saying your vows to him out loud. If you want them to be a surprise then have your maid of honor or best man listen to you and help fine-tune them. This is supposed to be a conversation, not just a reading aloud of written words.
Writing your own vows is a beautiful and wonderful thing but it’s not for everyone and it’s certainly not easy. There’s a reason most couples stick to the traditional vows, mostly because it’s easy to embarrass yourself or become stressed when trying to come up with your own. If you do decide to write your own vows take the advice above and hopefully it will make things easier.
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